Fear of failure (atychiphobia)

What is fear of failure?

People with fear of failure (atychiphobia), often think that they are incapable of doing something, and they are afraid that things will go wrong. They also often think that nobody is interested in them. They lack self-confidence. Fear of failure is one of the most common forms of anxiety. It is common among children and young people and significantly impacts life.

Different forms of fail of failure

There are various types of this condition, for example, positive fear of failure and negative fear of failure.

A positive fear of failure means that someone finds something fascinating but sees it as challenging. The person focuses on achieving success, and the result is often better than expected. Most of the tension disappears during a task or difficult situation and is converted into concentration, for example. Although this form is labelled as 'positive', the person does experience stress and has many negative thoughts beforehand.

Negative fear of failure means that someone sees a situation as challenging or threatening and should be avoided. The person feels obstructed and prefers to 'walk away' from the situation. They only think negatively ('I cannot do it; I cannot manage it'). The tension is often so great that people achieve less than they can.

We also distinguish between cognitive fear of failure, social fear of failure and emotional fear of failure.

A cognitive fear of failure is a fear of failing at performing tasks at school or work. For example, young people and children fear not performing well enough. Days before a test or an exam, they may already be plagued by stomach aches. An obstruction or blockage occurs during the task or situation, and sometimes, the youngsters shut down completely.

Social fear of failure occurs in a group or one-on-one situations. A person is afraid to make contact and is very concerned about what others think of them. Those with a social fear of failure have low self-esteem, little self-confidence and are sub-assertive. They struggle to stand up for themselves and say 'no'. Instead, they want to please everyone.

Emotional fear of failure means being afraid of showing emotions. Young people and socially skilled children can still have trouble showing their feelings. They are so scared of being rejected and not being understood by others.

In extreme cases of fear of failure, a person worries excessively, is unable to sleep well and has blackouts or even panic attacks, for example. The fear of failure controls their life. In such cases, fear of failure can be labelled an anxiety disorder.

Characteristics and symptoms of atychiphobia

Various complaints occur with fear of failure. The degree and severity of the complaints are different for everyone. The following complaints can arise: 

• worrying, causing thoughts to become increasingly negative;
• fear of not being able to meet the expectations of others, for example, during a test or exam;
• being afraid to participate in a conversation, being afraid of running out of words;
• not daring to meet someone or dreading it very much.

 Other characteristics of fear of failure are:

• excessive sweating;
• feeling sick (nausea);
• stomach cramps or stomach aches;
• dry lips;
• trembling or shaking;
• being unable to think clearly.

Treatment of fear of failure

At Yes We Can Youth Clinics, we teach young people to cope with their fear of failure and overcome this fear to be able to live and function in society in a fulfilling and meaningful way again. We are available 24/7 to help, support, motivate and confront young people at the appropriate time. Warmth, unconditional acceptance, and trust are central to this, as they are also in our aftercare programme. 

Group sessions, system/family coaching and counselling, daily sports and outdoor activities are essential to overcoming the fear of failure and coping with young people's other problems. Together, the treatment team and the young person set personal goals using a step-by-step approach. This includes one-on-one sessions with the regular therapist, giving feedback to each other in the group, and creatively participating in sports and games.

The therapy also consists of cognitive treatment and fear of failure reduction sessions. Here, we teach the young people to be kind to themselves instead of harsh. We also motivate them to work through their fear: to 'do and dare' instead of to 'think'. In this way, we try to give them back their self-confidence. The regular therapist has multi-disciplinary consultations with the other (care) professionals thrice daily. This ensures that our care is always tailored to meet the needs of young people.

Read more about our unique approach here.

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Yes We Can Youth Clinics can effectively treat teenagers and young adults who are suffering from a wide variety of mental health issues. If you have any questions at all, you can always contact us. We cannot stress enough that we are always there for you, whether you sign up for treatment in our clinic or not. 

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